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PostSubject: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:25 pm

The purpose of a first date is NOT to spend a bunch of money. NOT to take her to the movies. NOT to do something boring. NOT to make her wish she had never come our with you, or worse, ever met you.

You don't want to set the wrong direction for any further dates either, by handling the first date the wrong way. This is a crucial concept that you HAVE to get down. If you open the relationship up by spending a lot of money on her, or by doing the same old stuff that every other guy would do, or things like that, you will NOT get far with the girl. And, the hotter she is, physically and mentally, the more that line moves back even closer to you, to the point of her just saying to take her home because your date is so boring. So, you HAVE to watch what you're doing right at the start.

So, below are some starter ideas. We'll build from there.

Mini-golf: What's not to like about this first date idea? You have PLENTY of opportunity for kino AND for all around fun. You can neg her, joke with her, DHV yourself if you're good at it, and show her your confident and comfortable with yourself.

Shoot pool: Much the same advantages as the Mini-golf. Both are usually cheap as well.

Starbucks: If you order yourself a water, this one can be cheap as well, and gives you plenty of time to talk, tell stories, DHV yourself, get to know her.

Park: If the weather is warm, this is a beautiful option. Outdoors, green grass, trees, You can throw frisbees, play volleyball, play tennis or basketball if those courts are available. Plenty of opportunity for kino, again, and for joking around. You can bring an appetizer or some snack too. And, you can see her in a summer dress or shirt skirt. What more can you ask for? Wink

Mall: Walking the mall is free. And you can bounce from store to store, getting to know her, what she likes and dislikes, neg her, DHV yourself, more opportunity for kino.

Bar: If you both are old enough to go to a bar, you can sit and have a couple of drinks. You can get to know each other a bit, if there's a dance floor, you have much room for kino.

Musuem: These are usually free, or by donation. There are plenty of topics to talk about. Plenty of opporunity for building kino, for having fun, negging her.

Zoo: Walking time. Picture opportunities. Kino opportunities, holding hands while walking. Make fun of each other around the animals, neg her. All kinds of cool stuff can happen here.

Walk on beach/river front: Walking, holding hands, talking about each other, watching the water, the sunset if walking at that time. Feeling the breeze coming off of the water. And free.

Bowling: Kino opps, neg opps, general joking around, and usually cheap.

Wine tasting: I personally don't know much about this one, but have been told it's a good one.

Skating: Cheap, especially if you have your own skates. Good excersice. GREAT opps for kino. For negging.

Ice Cream Shop: Who doesn't like going to get ice cream? Time for talking, some kino. Cheap.

Botanical Gardens: Again, I don't know anything about this one personally, but have been told it's good.

Board game: If you can make her feel comfortable enough to join you at your place for the first date, and you're not in seduction yet, break out a board game and have some fun, great EC, kino, negging. Free. Or, take the board game to the park.

Card game: Same as above with board game.

Hiking: Doesn't matter if you're an avid outdoors person or not, you can both go hiking on trails in parks. Great opps for kino, cheap if not free, time to talk, get to know each other, etc.

Volunteer: Volunteer for some local event, or for some local charity. You'll give your time for free, but have opps for kino and joking around, getting to know each other.

Ice Skating: Usually cheap, especially if you have your own skates, and as with the other skating, PLENTY of kino opps, negging opps, general fun times and getting to know each other.

Decorate together, for the season: Have her to help you put up some seasonal decorations. You'll have great fun together, you'll see her creativity and she'll see yours, and great opps for kino.

Fly kites together: Hmmm, windy days, warm weather, blue skies, kite's flying, kino opps . . . need I say more?

Dance in the street together: Taken directly from the movie "The Notebook". Take the girl out into the street, turn some music on in your car, and start dancing. Simple as that.

Create a scavenger hunt for her: How much cooler can you get than setting up your own personal scavenger hunt for her to complete, in order to get a prize at the end?

Feel free to add more ideas to this thread. That's what it's here for.

Just keep in mind the "guidelines" we're going by. CHEAP if not free, opps for fun, opps for kino, opps to get to know each other, and DIFFERENT things. Not the same old date stuff that every AFC does.

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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Sat Aug 16, 2008 3:25 am

Well I like taking a hb to a go cart track costs 5 bucks for like 6 or so minutes you can have fun just let her win lol...



aaa baseball game if available 20 bucks at the most to get in for you both....


video arcade (cuckie cheese)

flea market

high school football games,basketball,baseball,volleyball etc...very cheap

anything can be fun really if you just use your imagination.....
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:48 am

A lot of people might not like Tom Leykis, but he has some great Leykis 101 pointers for this which, IMHO, are quite valid.

1. $40 rule. You don't spend more than $40 on a date, period. Like Tripp said, the idea isn't to go broke, and besides, over-spending sets a dangerous precedent.

2. If you are going out for dinner, eat ahead of time. If you just order soup or a salad, few females will want to eat more than you.

3. If you are going out for drinks and are the type that needs "liquid courage," have a couple before you even go out. It's much cheaper to drink your own booze, and you definitely don't want to be drinking four to her two, or, worse, you don't want both of you getting wasted.

4. If you're going for drinks, make it later because you have an important dinner. She doesn't need to know that it's a Rice-a-Roni date with Mad Money. The point is that it's more important than her.
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Tue Jan 06, 2009 6:14 am

Tripp, on your Botanical Gardens "I don't know about this one" comment. It's fantastic, especially for a girl who likes flowers.

I've taken my girlfriend several times, it's an opportunity for walking, negging, and LOTS of kino. It's relatively cheap, and if you can make your words count, you can turn any flower into a metaphor for anything. I mean, I got my girlfriend to think orchids were sexy!

And, yes, as others have said, don't spend a whole lot of money. Especially if it's a first date. $40 seems like a fair limit.
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Tue Jan 06, 2009 6:29 pm

Im also going to add one of mine which i probably stole from someone.

Pretend your tourists in your own city. Alot of people dont know anything about the place they live in *raises hand*. Its a fun as hell date aswell.

Pretend your spies/detectives and set a theme asking strangers serious but stupid questions. If you want get a plastic sherif badge and pin it to each of you.

Those are free (or $2 if you want a sherif badge) and are shit fun. AND the girl will remember it for sure.
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Wed Jan 07, 2009 11:47 pm

I know there's a $40 limit, but have you guys ever taken a girl paintballing? You'd be surprised just how many girls there are who secretly want to shoot something. You don't even have to be good at it. I think it'll work for any date, not just the first.

It's not cheap, the place I go it's $30 per person, that comes w/ unlimited refills of air and 200 paintballs. It's also a great stress reliever!
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Thu Jan 08, 2009 1:53 am

I just got a membership at the art museum. $40 for a year! I was thinking it might be fun to say I'll be there for a function-- why don't you meet me at the cafe at whatever time? That way, she pays her own way in and there is never that awkward "I'm not paying for you" moment...
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Thu Jan 08, 2009 5:01 am

Actually, the $40 limit is kind of arbitrary. It's a good figure for some guys to go by, but not for all. We all have different financial situations. What's more important is realizing that you are not there to spend all your money on the first date. You're there to make a connection.

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You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.

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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Thu Jan 08, 2009 6:01 am

Style hit on that pretty well in the very beginning of the Annihilation Method. Just like you said, Tripp, the principle is just to not throw money at the girl. But being cheap is almost as bad!
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Sat Feb 14, 2009 1:13 am

I'm surprised you're talking about a $40-limit here.

My experiences with girls are that a '$0.00-limit' is *best* working! Very Happy

That's simply because of 2 reasons:

1) Women like to be taken seriously. This includes
the paradigm "I can pay for my own stuff".

2) Showing her *you* DON'T have to pay anything
to have *anyone* around you. Including her.
Second is about social dynamics. Showing her about your
(potential) high status.

... In my experience girls tend to *not* have sex with a
guy who's paying a lot! I've talked to a couple of girls.
Most of them agree with the following:
"There are three types of guys around me.
First, guys whom are *friends* of mine.
Second, guys whom *pay* my drinks, drive me to the
clubs I like etc.
Third, guys whom I have sex with. ... These are different
from the guys paying my stuff ..."

... Really wondering this stuff still is 'on' at a PUA-forum.

However, honestly I came here to promote my first
ebook on First-Date-Seduction. (As you can see, it's my first post ...).

If you like, you can check it out here:
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=> By the way: I'm searching for five *test-readers* whom are *native speakers* (English). If you're interested, just send me an email: justus(dot)rosenthal(at)gmx(dot)de

Have a good time!

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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Mon Feb 16, 2009 1:19 am

Justus, welcome to the forum.

I "hope" you're not "just" here to promote your book, but to also contribute to the forum, since you say you're in this field.

You've made a valid point with the 3 diff types of guys that girls hang around. This is true most of the time.

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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Sat Mar 07, 2009 1:40 pm

Thanks L.A. Tripp, I have a few ideas what I should do with the Starbucks HB9 now Smile


I should probably add some that has worked for me before:

-Go for a scenic drive. Of course, that only works if there's something to look at. Generally, cities all along the coasts are pretty good in terms of sight-seeing. Gas is relatively cheap if you're just planning to drive around town. Some room for kino, definitely lots of room for fluffing. It works great in conjunction with other activities, because you don't expect to be driving around all day just looking at things.
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Tue Mar 17, 2009 9:17 am

I like these Tripp, they are all fun...
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Tue Mar 17, 2009 3:24 pm

One from a motorbike rider. go for a ride in that. im on my L's so i have a while before that one happens Sad

Girls ive talked to about the all love the idea of a motorbike.
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Tue Mar 17, 2009 7:47 pm

Another thing you can do is look up to see what events are going on in your town like festivals, small concerts, wine tasting events, art shows etc etc. One of my favorites is the art festival they hold twice a year around here. It shows that you are open to trying new things.
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Wed Oct 14, 2009 12:10 pm

Maybe not first date but it is certainly a fun one if you get the right girl

After taking a girl i know to a friends show, she gloated about being a pacman god. I took her to an arcade and we played random games all night... while having a few drinks naturally. The only problem was we wanted retro games like pacman pinball and frogger, instead we played dance revolution, mario kart and tekkan. I lost tekkan and have since hung my head in shame.

This date is fun as all hell and provides you heaps of opportunities to play around, especially when your losing and decide to use dirty tactics to win:P
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Wed Oct 14, 2009 11:49 pm

MattJacks wrote:
Maybe not first date but it is certainly a fun one if you get the right girl

After taking a girl i know to a friends show, she gloated about being a pacman god. I took her to an arcade and we played random games all night... while having a few drinks naturally. The only problem was we wanted retro games like pacman pinball and frogger, instead we played dance revolution, mario kart and tekkan. I lost tekkan and have since hung my head in shame.

This date is fun as all hell and provides you heaps of opportunities to play around, especially when your losing and decide to use dirty tactics to win:P

That's awesome.

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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Mon Oct 26, 2009 8:40 pm

This makes me feel a lot better, those are all the places I've normally went.
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Tue Oct 27, 2009 6:47 pm

also good to know the really strange hip bars that not many people know of, i just found one that is a tiny, wine boutique bar in the city and i am going to try and bring somone there next time i have a day off work.... in a month
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PostSubject: Re: 1st date ideas, and how to handle the 1st date   Tue May 11, 2010 9:07 am

If you have a telescope, it's a GREAT thing to do. You can look at planets, nebulae, galaxies, etc. Plenty of kino opportunities, and I guarantee it will be a night she'll never forget!

Looking at the night sky is a very romantic/alpha thing to do. Girls love thinking about things that are hard/impossible to imagine (vast unknown, higher powers, magic, astrology, alien life, etc.)
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