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PostSubject: I've got to tweak myself   Mon Jan 05, 2009 11:20 pm

I've entered a new "phase" so to speak.

If my advice has seemed off a bit lately or if I just seem different, here's why. A little less than a year ago I found a woman that actually made a really great, deep, deep connection with me. She hit parts of me, my head and my heart, that no other woman I pick up does. The relationship was at a deep level that normally only life long relationships reach.

Yes, there were problems, but then again every relationship has problems.

I'm in the process of pulling myself away from her. It's hard, extremely hard, but it's got to be done. I've seen it coming for a while and even tried to prepare myself ahead of time. Didn't work. I can go out and pick up a different girl every day or every night of the week, can lay girls any night I want. The whole PUA teaching of "go fuck ten other girls and see if you still think about the girl", and the other teachings of PUA don't make a difference with this girl. She's still there, locked into my mind, no matter what I do.

Well, somehow, some way, I have to pull myself away. So, while I'm tweaking myself, bear with me. It's a rough spot for me. This one is tougher than all the shit I'd been through with PUAF. This is honestly almost as hard as it was when my son died. She is firmly rooted in my head and heart.

So anyway, bear with me while I make this transition.

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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Mon Jan 05, 2009 11:44 pm

Just out of curiosity, if you're so into her then why are you refusing to have her? Isn't the point of this community to teach men how to take what we've been beaten into thinking we can't have our entire lives?
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Mon Jan 05, 2009 11:49 pm

It's a good question. It's become too one sided. There have become head games involved.

It's been something I haven't wanted to admit, but I can do better and deserve better than what I was getting from her.

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You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.

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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Tue Jan 06, 2009 4:35 am

GO Tripp Go
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Tue Jan 06, 2009 5:41 am

Thanks Juice. Much appreciated.

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You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.

Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Tue Jan 06, 2009 6:38 am

If head games have come into play, perhaps you should find your own? Or, just pretend it doesn't effect you.

When I'm trying to get over a girl, it just helps me think that there will be somebody better along the road. Especially if you've got the PUA thing down, you should have no issue finding somebody better, who won't screw with your head.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Tue Jan 06, 2009 6:42 am

Hmm, so it sounds like a battle of Tripp v Tripp. You know we all support ya Smile
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Tue Jan 06, 2009 7:54 am

It sounds like Tripp needs to take a trip. When I was going through my last funk, I had a hard time getting out of bed, my buddies grabbed me and took me on a road trip, I was miserable and very annoyed, maybe border line violent. The next weekend I took off for about 3 days solo, (so no one could find me), something about it worked for me, I don't know why. Home alone my mind would torcher me. Out on the road with friends, they torchered me trying to make me feel good, my mind wouldn't let me feel good. Something about being alone away from all helped me deal. Lake Mead is where I go, you can feel like the only man alive there, theres more to it but you get the idea.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Tue Jan 06, 2009 9:38 pm

Yeah, t3h, I do have the PUA thing down and I can easily find other girls. But, I have, regularly. I'm with other girls constantly.

Karma, you hit the nail on the head there bro. It's me against me. Thanks for your support as well. That means a lot to me. I have the internal battle of "I want her but I don't need her" going on. Which one is more powerful is the question.

Bri, a trip sounds really good, if it were possible at this time, but alas it's not. I think you're right Bri, my mind won't let me feel good. I have some girls helping me deal at the moment . . . they just don't "replace" her though, lol.

It's all that damn internal battle and for any other girl that battle is easily fought and dealt with. Not so much for this one.

I will be ok, I just have to crush this internal battle. Knock my frame back into place, lol.

Thanks again guys for your support. I'm only human too.

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You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.

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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Wed Jan 07, 2009 5:34 am

I have faith that you will handle this to your satisfaction. Or as close to it as possible. Good luck Tripp
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Wed Jan 07, 2009 7:45 am

Tripp, I'm always thinking you will figure what's the best advantageous path to take. Not only for yourself, but for this young lady as well. LA, I disagree with you. I think you need this young lady in your life. For the reason being, she has struck a certain cord within you. That is one of the rarest things to occur, it feels great when we feel we have successfully located someone in the world, who accepts us. At first it feels otherworldly for a time being, but life's circumstances arises and may decrease that starlight effect to a degree. I think you are in that phase where the star's gleam maybe coming faint, but alas the star still shines LA.
Personally, I say don't let this young lady slip by, if you can hoist up the situation into a better view. Though, I do understand we all deserve to be treated in a good manner, I think you may want to take a few steps back and look at the body of work from a different angle. peace,lvoe and succe SS
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Wed Jan 07, 2009 9:30 pm

Thank you Matt.

Fortune, you are right that this one female has struck that cord, unlike all the others I've picked up since being in PUA. The attraction is undeniable, on both of our sides. However, she is fighting her hardest to move on past me because she has herself convinced our lives would never mesh. In so doing, she has found ways to sabotage the relationship. For instance, she started talking to two other guys and told me she wants to see where one would lead. I know, and have told her, she will never be as happy with them, but of course I can't control her. I think deep down she knows it too, but she's fighting against her heart, and has admitted that.

I don't know what other view or angle to take brother.

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You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.

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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Thu Jan 08, 2009 4:28 am

Have you talked to her about it?
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Thu Jan 08, 2009 4:59 am

Pretty in depth actually Hobbit. She knows what I want and how I feel. She knows I want her in my life, and she has said the same for me. We've both agreed we are a part of each other. We've both said we don't think we can let each other go. However, she's convinced her mom and brother will never accept me because I don't fit the image of what they like. I've known this for a while. She's been battling this in her head for a while. She can never, NEVER, tell me to my face that she wants to let go of me. She can only do it over the phone, text, or internet. Anything that takes away the face to face contact. If she's face to face with me, she can only break down crying and say she can't let me go.

But, the battle in her head is strong too. She has me on one side and her mom and brother, especially her mom most of all, on the other side. And, she depends on her mom daily to help her take care of her son while she works and things like that.

So, this is the third day that I haven't talked to her, trying to pull away.

Hobbit or anyone else feel free to throw in ANY input you have on this, whether good or bad. I am having a hard time with this, so ALL, and I do mean ALL viewpoints are things I want to consider.

There's a key somewhere, one way or the other, and I need to find it.

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You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.

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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Thu Jan 08, 2009 7:13 am

I think your doing the right thing bro,
People move on all the time, I'm not saying its easy, it can be as hard as anything, but sometimes its necessary. Yea you had a connection, yea you had some good times, leave it at that.
The longer you hold on, the longer you will be miserable, you need to actually let go before you can even begin to heal and thats the truest thing I know.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Thu Jan 08, 2009 7:15 am

Sorry if I sound grimm, I just lost one of my best friends to suicide Monday, I'm having to let go to.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Thu Jan 08, 2009 7:57 am

Tripp, you're on the right track. If you know it's over one way or another but you can't keep that focus when you talk to her then you have to make a clean break. Two major points. First, you said you deserve better. Whatever you meant by that, you certainly said it for a reason. Second, you don't want to be with a girl who feels the need to choose between you and her family, regardless of her choice. If she chooses you, what baggage! She will resent you almost immediately and just drag you down.

It's hard when something you want goes away, but that's life, brother. It feels easier to go back to what you want to believe is the comfort of talking to her, but you need to force yourself to realize when you're in that mood is that the only thing comfortable is the idea in your head: the memory. It's harder to face reality that you have to move on alone, but in short order this becomes the easier path.

And since I love metaphors and movie quotes... remember this one: "Marla... that little sore on the roof of your mouth that would go away if you could only stop tonguing it... but you can't."

Keep your head up.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Thu Jan 08, 2009 7:58 am

Briguy388 wrote:
Sorry if I sound grimm, I just lost one of my best friends to suicide Monday, I'm having to let go to.
Dude... so sorry to hear that. Best wishes to your friend's family and friends.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Thu Jan 08, 2009 8:41 am

Sorry for the news. Thoughts go to the friends and family.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Thu Jan 08, 2009 12:13 pm

Bri, sorry about your loss man. I understand how it is to lose someone like that as well, just not to suicide. I lost my youngest son about a year and a half ago now. Yes, it still hurts. I don't think you're sounding grimm, however it's just not as easy as it would appear on the surface.

Karma, that's one problem. I don't truly know that it's over one way or the other. That's one thing I'm actually trying to figure out. That's one thing I'm telling myself, but in all honesty, that question is still there. I know her true feelings, so the answer isn't cut and dry. Yes, I did say I deserve better for several reasons. One of which is that she forgot my b/day, which to me was a very big deal. Someone you're in a relationship with forgets your b/day, just doesn't seem right to me. However, that doesn't cut off the chemistry either. Finally, I'm not actually moving on alone, but I also have to figure out which way is fair to the other person I'm in a relationship with. I will end up with one or the other, but that's what has to be straightened out.

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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Fri Jan 09, 2009 2:32 am

So this all is a result of her mother disliking you? Is that what caused all of this?
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Fri Jan 09, 2009 3:13 am

Well, obviously there have been a lot of other things added on top at this point, but that remains one of the big triggers. Big enough for her to keep bringing it up. Even at the very end that was one thing she remarked about. She doesn't figure her mom will be around that much longer because of her health. She's admitted her mom makes her life a living hell. And her mom took one look at me the first time she saw me and didn't like me right off the bat, so yeah, that's a big factor.

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You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Fri Jan 09, 2009 5:32 am

Ah, I know that kind of mother. It just seems like a horrible situation, sorry to hear that. Seems the best way is a clean cut.
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Fri Jan 09, 2009 8:00 am

Tripp you gotta smile with some teeth when you meet mothers lol
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PostSubject: Re: I've got to tweak myself   Fri Jan 09, 2009 11:28 pm

LOL Juice.

Well, to update this situation . . . I broke down and contacted her yesterday because I had another traumatic situation pop up yesterday and I seriously couldn't handle both at once. My second ex called and informed me that my oldest son with her has gone completely blind in his left eye and has a growth beside or behind it as well. He is currently in the hospital for testing now and treatment, but I was crushed between both of these emotional draws, so me and her talked last night. She was glad to hear from me. So . . . a clean cut ain't happening, at least not now.

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