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PostSubject: 4 Reasons Girls Love Bad Boys   Sat Apr 18, 2009 2:08 am

An article from eHarmony

Why is it that many sensible and responsible women are attracted to “bad boys?” What do otherwise conscientious and even conservative women see in rebels and rabble-rousers?

First, understand that bad boys come in many variations and degrees. There are the seriously bad apples who have regular run-ins with the law, habitually use drugs, and get arrested for violent acts. Then there’s the milder variety—mischief-makers who enjoy breaking rules just because they’re there. These guys have unusually high testosterone, and they haven’t learned to channel all that aggression in a constructive way. So they drive too fast, engage in risky behaviors, and seek out danger. Other guys adopt a bad boy image because it gives them an identity, acceptance in their peer group, or attention from their parents and other adults.

There are typically four reasons good girls fall for guys like these:

1. The impulse to perpetuate what’s familiar.
Many women attracted to rogues had a father who was a little wild and rebellious. Because many girls idealize their father, they may seek a partner with similar traits. This usually isn’t a conscious decision; much of the allure happens below the level of awareness. Girls may also choose these boys on the assumption that Dad will be impressed.

2. The urge to redo the father-daughter relationship.
The motivation is an attempt to revise a troubled or distant relationship with their dad. Often, attraction is fueled by unmet childhood needs from the opposite-sex parent. So if a woman chooses someone reminiscent of her father, her motivation may be to remedy childhood hurts.

3. The drive to rehabilitate or “save” a wayward man.
Simply put, many women are rescuers. It’s a challenge for them to reform an incorrigible man. These women think, Sure, he gets into trouble, but I can change him! Ego is involved as well. It’s inflating when a woman feels like she is the only one who can transform a man.

4. The appetite for adventure.
Other women like the excitement, thrills, and sense of danger bad boys bring. This is especially true for those who have been “good girls” all their lives. Perhaps they grew up in a family that demanded conformity and compliance with rules. So they’re intrigued with men who scoff at rules and shrug off responsibility.

How do these relationships usually turn out? In a word, poorly. That’s because bad boys won’t change unless they want to—no matter how long-suffering their partner might be. Further, despite initial attraction, most women get tired of bailing a man out of jail, wondering if he’ll make it home from a party, or catching him with another woman. Women who sign on with bad boys enlist for endless conflict and turmoil. Ironically, the very thing that draws good girls and bad boys together is usually their undoing. Many women have learned the hard way that bad boys make bad dating partners--and even worse spouses.

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PostSubject: Re: 4 Reasons Girls Love Bad Boys   Tue Apr 21, 2009 4:38 am

I read this article, and some of it seems interesting to boot. The electra complex being discussed is very interesting, and if you brought this up in convo. I'm willing to place a wager that many girls will talk about their father and get wide eyed. This is something to explore. peace,lvoe and succe SS
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PostSubject: Re: 4 Reasons Girls Love Bad Boys   Sun Apr 26, 2009 3:02 am

Tripp great article to post. I myself as a woman have always gone for the bad boy myself. I call it the bad boy complex. Woman as a rule often find themselves more attracted to the "bad boy" because it is something out of the norm for us. The bad boy takes us out of our comfort zone and gives us things we would not normaly get or take us and do things we would not normaly do left to our own devices. We also see this as a bit of payback to our parents. This is why if your a bad boy and you find yourself attracted to the good girl it can be a very dynamic relationship with it's ups and downs. Woman tend to want to bring home the man that daddy likes but mommy doesn't. Mostly because the bad boy is the ones that mommy warned us about so look on it as the forbidden fruit in a way. Mom said we couldn't have it so now we just got to have it lol.
Might take a look at yourself. Are you the good guy who never gets the gal or are you the bad boy who has woman draped all over him and both groups wonder why they can never find the girl for them.
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PostSubject: Re: 4 Reasons Girls Love Bad Boys   Sun May 03, 2009 1:33 pm

Depending on your relationship with your mother, you might want to give some thought as to why she warned you about bad boys though. Sometimes the forbidden fruit may seem enticing, but after a short time you begin to find out why you were warned about his type in the first place. Your mother may have more wisdom than you give her credit for. For the most part parents love their children and give them the advice they do because they want their children to be happy. All teenagers go through a rebellious stage where they think they know more than their parents but as we get older we usually find that our parents knew more than we realized when we were younger. With age comes wisdom. Wouldn't you say that you know more about the world and how things work than you did ten years ago?

Bad boys do get girls, but a more important thing to consider is after getting the girl, who is more likely to be able to keep the girl - the bad boy or the good guy?
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PostSubject: Re: 4 Reasons Girls Love Bad Boys   Fri Jul 17, 2009 4:32 am

RoyaltyInExile wrote:

Bad boys do get girls, but a more important thing to consider is after getting the girl, who is more likely to be able to keep the girl - the bad boy or the good guy?

probably the bad guy cos the good guy is gonna be a huge AFC Very Happy
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