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PostSubject: Uncomfortable.   Sun Sep 20, 2009 11:35 am

I hit the bars again tonight, and ran into a situation that made me a bit uncomfortable before I left. Anyway, I'm just chillin, and this somewhat drunk girl, about a HB8 gets right in my face, hip to hip, and reaches for my hat before I even really notice her. Now, generally speaking this is a "good thing", but my problem is I don't know this girl at all. Never met her before. At this point, my personal space alarms are going off in my head. A half step between us and I wouldn't think a thing about it, but I'm feeling a bit put off at this point. She kinda picks up that I'm uncomfortable and doesn't stay long. I guess what I need to figure out here is a balance between asking for a touch of personal space, yet not blowing the girl off either. I'm sure part of this all goes into the fact I'm not used to that kind of attention too. My general vibe must be going in a positive direction, as I've never really had a girl I don't know in my personal space so quick like that before. Especially not an attractive one. I've really got to get over this whole awkward getting attention thing...
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PostSubject: Re: Uncomfortable.   Mon Sep 21, 2009 11:17 am

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I've really got to get over this whole awkward getting attention thing...

That right there says it all. If you're gonna be picking up girls to find your girl . . . you have to get used to them being in your intimate space Wink You'll never have sex with them if you don't let them get that close . . . lol.

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PostSubject: Re: Uncomfortable.   Mon Sep 21, 2009 6:24 pm

Hah, well, it was just so sudden, took me off guard. You know, lemme at least get a name before ya get all up close and personal. But point taken.
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PostSubject: Re: Uncomfortable.   Mon Sep 21, 2009 9:51 pm

Sydrian, i think your over rationalizing the situation...when people are that drunk the normal rules dont apply...you know this and thats why you reacted the way you did...perfectly normal reaction to someone whos drunk and in your space.

If the girl had been sober and done this, youd have probably reacted a bit diferently...then again sober people tend to not to invade space in the same manner.

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PostSubject: Re: Uncomfortable.   Mon Sep 21, 2009 10:01 pm

True Ka. I'll readily admit, over rationalization is a personality flaw of mine.
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PostSubject: Re: Uncomfortable.   Mon Sep 21, 2009 10:12 pm

Sydrian, here's a question for ya . . . if she was a . . . 5 . . . would you have been that put off? Serious question by the way, lol.

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PostSubject: Re: Uncomfortable.   Mon Sep 21, 2009 11:00 pm

Tripp, if she was a five I probably would of had a sudden urge to visit the restroom. The fact the girl was attractive definitely made it more comfortable than if it was someone I'd have no interest in.
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PostSubject: Re: Uncomfortable.   Mon Sep 21, 2009 11:56 pm

Its flatering im sure, that she was attractive...but it doesnt change why he reacted the way he did, and his reaction was apropriate for the situation.

We have all been there, usually it may happen closer to the end of the night, some girl has had 1 too many and she starts getting too close to everyone...ive had it happen to me, ive seen it happen, ive even see friends of mine do it to guys...

The same thing happens every time...no one wants to be near her...shes not safe to be around, and everyone makes their space.

Now, theres a fine line...sometimes the girl is drunk but not sloppy, and a small percentage of guys will capitalize on that and work with it...but generally when a girl is not trashed she will have enuff restraint to at least talk to you and make sure YOURE safe before she gets in your space.

Personally if i think a girl is drunk enuff that her judgement could be hampered, i wont bother too much or let it get too far, for my own good.

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