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PostSubject: Grow Up and Get Out   Sat Nov 14, 2009 3:11 am

Or rather, simply grow up and move on.

Listen, too many guys (and girls honestly) need to grow up these days. You've either got things too easy, or you hang on to hatred and bitterness that you should let go of, or you don't open your eyes to the world around you.

I don't care WHAT you've been through in the past. If you don't move past THESE conditions, you will NEVER grow up and be an adult or live the full life you CAN and should.

As far as PUA goes, you'll never find a good, quality girl at this rate. As far as life goes, you'll never find that quality, happy life that you truly want. Not unless you move past these issues.

"You don't know me." "You don't know my life." "You have no idea what I've been through." "You haven't seen the hell I've seen." "You don't have the family I've got." "You didn't have the upbringing I had." "You didn't go to the schools I went to." "You haven't been in the horrendous places I've been." "You haven't had to sacrifice the way I have." "You haven't had the setbacks I've had." "You haven't had your life on the line, with death being in front of your face."

You know what? Every single one of these are excuses. I hear them. And, you know something else? I'VE LIVED THEM. Yeah, you have no idea what kind of life I'VE lived either. So, you're excuses, your attitudes, your bitchiness, your childish ways don't fly with me. In fact, I'VE personally been through a couple of experiences that weren't even listed in those excuses above.

So, whatever your crutch is, get over it. You will never, and I repeat, never grow up as long as you hold onto that crutch. Period. End of discussion.

But, since we're still here . . . let me add something to this. Something meaningful. Something thought provoking. Are you ready for this?

It's never as good as it looks, or as bad as it seems.

Seriously.

Can you grasp the full meaning of this? In other words, if you've been on your death bed, barely escaping with your life . . . "it's never as good as it looks or as bad as it seems". It's just an experience that you've had that CAN help you to be a BETTER person, IF you learn from it.

The flip side. If you're a multi-billionaire . . . "it's never as good as it looks or as bad as it seems". Granted, being that wealthy has it's perks. But, it's not all peaches and cream either. There ARE definite downsides. It's, again, something you can learn from and grow with.

So screw your excuses, grow up, and learn from your experiences. Be a BETTER person because of what you've been through. Not a bitter one. Not a hermit. Not an angry, irritable, wanna fight everyone person. Not a 13 year old in a 45 year old body.

Grow up. Live life. Enjoy life to it's fullest. LIFE isn't stopping you from doing that . . . YOU are stopping you from doing that.

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PostSubject: Re: Grow Up and Get Out   Sat Nov 14, 2009 5:53 pm

My cousin a year or 2 back was going through a real hard time, everything in his life seemed to be going down the tubs...his relationship with a long time gf, his social life, home life, work, everything...

We are out on his birthday with a few close friends...we celebrate but when the nights over i take him back to a friends house and its just me and him. We are at least 10 stories up looking into the city skyline. Hes at the wall sized window looking out and just asks me bleekly, "How do you deal with all the stuff you've been through?"

I told him after thinking for a second...."I realize that five years later ill probably look back and laugh at whatever it is that bothers me know, or even learn from it...so i just skip the getting upset part."

He started going on about how tough things are and i said to him, "Listen, your always gonna have something tuff going on in your life...everyone has problems your not the the first guy on earth to have problems with x, y, z...your not fucking special..."

I continued and said, "Instead of mopin around and feeling sorry for yourself, take the positive from it and discard it...what could you learn from your experiences, what humor can you see in it?"

I explained to him as an example the other day where from the moment i got up everything seemed to be going wrong...and i had a dr appointment i had to take the train to. Of course i got to the train just in time to see it passing by.

Whatd i do? I through my hands up in the air and started laughing loudly...for about a minute i just laughed til it hurt. The irony...and then i walked to wawa (a deli, they make hoagies) got some food and relaxed...went back home and the rest of my day went great.

There was no point in getting upset, there usually isnt. Now its natural to get mad, but its not natural to cling to that forever...like Tripp said those are excuses.

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PostSubject: Re: Grow Up and Get Out   Sat Nov 14, 2009 7:33 pm

I love this post. It's one of lifes most important lessons and the best thing I've got from pua. I used to be an angry kid before I discovered the comunity.
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PostSubject: Re: Grow Up and Get Out   Sat Nov 14, 2009 8:25 pm

Motivation to quench ur life's desires. This post puts a perspective on life. Thanks LA.
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PostSubject: Re: Grow Up and Get Out   Sat Nov 14, 2009 8:48 pm

We need to be reminded of this, thank you Tripp. This is one of the most valuable lessons we need to learn, and even I am guilty of sitting here today with regrets and blaming myself for a bad night out. Then I read your post and thought, "to hell with it" this happens and I shouldn't care

Thanks for reminding me brother
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PostSubject: Re: Grow Up and Get Out   Sat Nov 14, 2009 10:53 pm

Ugh . . . glad you got to go out Cro.

I came home, came inside for maybe an hour, long enough to shave (I was a "bit" overgrown, lol), talked to a couple of girls in here, texted LaRock while shaving . . . went back out to the car . . . and realized while I was inside someone had gotten into it, taken out my bottle of cologne, half a dozen or so burned cd's, my cell phone charger, and my fucking sub box. Left the amp, left the original cds. So, instead of going out (I was heading to an upscale club), I got to joy of sitting around talking to cops, filing a report, and hunting for the culprits.

I'm almost positive I know who did it, but no I have no proof and didn't find who I was looking for. Oddly enough, they dropped a cd out of the glove box . . . but the cops won't fingerprint it. I have it stored in a ziploc bag. I have 3 vehicles. Every one of them have been hit now.

So yeah, we all have our shit to deal with.

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AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"

You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.

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PostSubject: Re: Grow Up and Get Out   Sat Nov 14, 2009 10:55 pm

my bro Checkers always has the same attitude and it serves well here, "it can always be worse"
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PostSubject: Re: Grow Up and Get Out   Sun Nov 15, 2009 6:33 am

Just in from the department of
"It Could Be Worse"
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PostSubject: Re: Grow Up and Get Out   Sun Nov 15, 2009 1:04 pm

Wow . . . that, yeah, that could be worse, lol.

Well, some good news came about today. The police actually recovered my sub and returned it to me. The most expensive thing that was stolen.

And I managed to get to that upscale club tonight too, lol.

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Alpha: "Come here, now."
AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"

You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.

Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
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